The Three Circles That Return You to Your Power — No Matter What Happens to You.
Just five questions to break the loop of reaction and suffering.
These moments feel random. They aren't. They follow a structure — and a structure, once you can see it, can be reversed.
Months later you are still arguing with them in your head. The loop, not the love, is what won't end.
You know what to eat. The block that undoes it was never about food — David spent more than a decade coaching exactly this terrain.
The habit is not the problem. The demand underneath it is — and willpower was never going to outrun it.
The decision that won't close, the client you can't let go of, the calm you perform in every meeting.
Reading someone else's mood to find out how you are doing. Your okayness, parked in territory that was never yours.
One method for all of them.
That is the point of a map.
Everything in your life belongs in one of three circles — ME, YOU, and LIFE. Suffering begins the moment they blur into each other.
And when they blur, the mind runs a loop. Four steps, always in the same order:
Compassionate, because the feeling is met first and never argued with. Rational, because the belief underneath it is examined rather than accepted for feeling convincing. Inquiry, because you are asking, not being told.
The five questions that reverse the loop — and the practice that makes them second nature — are in the book.
Albert Ellis and REBT, Aaron Beck's cognitive therapy, Jeffrey Young's schema therapy, Daniel Kahneman's fast and slow thinking, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy through Russ Harris, the Stoics — Epictetus and Marcus Aurelius — Aristotle, Maimonides, Ramana Maharshi, Jiddu Krishnamurti, Alan Watts, Jill Bolte Taylor, Viktor Frankl, Kristin Neff, David Chalmers, Alfred Korzybski, and Hillel.
Integrating ancient philosophy, modern psychology, and traditional mindfulness.
Five questions, one per chapter, each usable on the day you read it. Seven days of practice, one question at a time. Three meditations for the morning before anything has gone wrong. Then the walk — the five questions run together in real rooms — and, for the reader who wants it, why every step works.
To feel them without spiraling. To feel the good ones without clinging. To care deeply without disappearing into what you care about.
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